The Moment I Realized I Had Abandoned My Body

Listen to an expanded conversation between Bart and Sunny around this newsletter:

The Moment I Realized I Had Stopped Listening

I eat because I have to, and grab whatever is convenient. I work when I need to, however long it takes. I sit for hours staring at screens. I don’t fully know what brings me pleasure, desire, or stop to think about my environment and whether or not it aligns with what I need in that moment.

I’ve also realized something else that is strange: I can sit and think about and list plenty of things I’m grateful for, but in many of those moments, I wasn’t actually feeling the joy or gratitude as they happened. It wasn’t until I stopped to reflect on what I was grateful for that I realized I was missing the feeling in the moment. 

Our Almost-Nine-Month-Old Teacher

She feels, expresses, and listens with such presence, curiosity, joy, or demands that it is refreshing. 

She doesn’t second-guess it, try to override it, or apologize for it. 

Your body is not just your physical vessel, it’s a masterpiece of the most sacred technology you will ever own, capable of healing, sensing, creating, and guiding you home to yourself. It’s also your most honest relationship. It doesn’t lie, flatter you, or edit itself to be polite.

We like to think we know ourselves. We say all the right affirmations. We journal about self-worth. We can “know” in our minds we are worthy, powerful, or “enough”...

But our bodies tell the real story. Because our deepest beliefs are not in our words. They’re in our posture, our nervous systems, and our automatic reactions.

• If your shoulders are always tense, what are you bracing for?

• If your jaw is clenched, what are you holding back?

• If your voice gets small, who told you it was safer not to be heard?

• If your chest collapses inward, when did you learn to make yourself smaller?

Your body remembers the moments your mind tried (maybe successfully) to forget. It holds the truth of how safe or unsafe it feels to be you. Even when your mind says, “I’m fine,” your body might be whispering, “I’m not.” Your mind might lie to you, but your body never will. Isn’t that freaking amazing? 

Why do we stop listening and start disrespecting this incredible instrument of our humanity so much? And why have we become so afraid of ourselves?

 What Are We So Afraid Of?

We have been talking about this a lot lately, especially since Bart started leading us through breathwork each night. When he first invited me, I’ll be honest…I resisted a little. And I see other people do the same thing simply because they are afraid of it. They’re afraid it will be too much for them, or they will get out of control, or maybe they will shut down, or stop breathing, or lose consciousness or something. It’s too unknown, and unknown is scary. If there are health conditions or breathing dysfunctions involved…that’s understandable. 

But if not… if you stop to think about that…there is something deeper going on. It’s just breathing, right? Something we do all day every day without even thinking about it. Why are we terrified over something as simple and sacred as breath? 

Is it because if we slow down long enough to breathe, we might feel something? Unlock something? We might finally hear the grief, the rage, the trauma, the longing, the desire - that we buried just to survive. We might find those parts and pieces of us that need our attention so we can be whole. 

Or maybe it will show us how powerful we are, and we’re afraid of that? 

Breathwork is a beautiful thing and it’s unlocking so much for both of us. We have both felt more grounded, more present, and more peace in our day-to-day. We are also experiencing more intuition and guidance. Without asking for it or looking for it, it’s just there. It’s a beautiful thing. 

So here’s the real question: what are we afraid of if we come home to our bodies? And what might happen if we don’t? 

Here’s what we believe: You aren’t broken. You’re not too much. You are not something to fix. You are a cathedral of intelligence. A miracle of sensation. A sacred, embodied soul. Your body remembers who you were before the world told you to go numb. It holds the key to your peace, your power, and your truth. And it will welcome you back the second you return! 

Reconnection is a Revolution

It’s no secret we are drowning in AI, filters, screens, performance, and pressure. The cost is that we are all becoming digital minds in neglected bodies. Our bodies are not a tool for output, a problem to be solved, or a project to be fixed. It’s the last sacred space in a world trying to digitize your soul. It’s the portal to:

• Real joy

• Real grief

• Real pleasure 

• Real intuition

• Real presence

We can’t outsource embodiment, we can only remember it. So, let’s talk remembering.

🌀 10 Gentle Ways to Reconnect with Your Body

How do we come back home to our bodies? Not with pressure or more “shoulds.” With presence, reverence, and small acts of remembering. Here are 10 gentle ways to begin reconnecting with your body - not to fix it, but to befriend it again.

1. Body Check-In Ritual
Take 60 seconds during the morning, mid-day, or night and ask: “What sensations do I notice? What does my body need right now?” Not what should I do but what do I feel?

2. Grounding Touch
Place a hand on your heart, belly, or thighs. Breathe there. Just notice. No fixing. This builds presence and safety in the body.

3. Move Without a Goal
Dance, stretch, shake, or walk - not to burn calories, but to feel what it’s like to be alive in your skin. Ask: What kind of movement does my body crave today?

4. Practice Hunger & Fullness Awareness
Before eating, pause. Am I hungry? What kind of nourishment do I need? After eating: How does my body feel now? This gently rebuilds trust with your body’s signals.

5. Breathe Like It Matters
Try 2 minutes of conscious breathing (inhale 4, exhale 6). Breath is your most direct access point to your nervous system.

6. Wear Something You Can Feel
Textures, weights, jewelry, scent - anything that makes you feel embodied and alive rather than invisible or armored.

7. Scan for Pleasure
Notice what brings a subtle smile, a sense of softness, or joy. Sunshine on your skin? Warm tea? Music? Pleasure reconnects you with aliveness, and it’s one of the most healing states to invite into the body.

8. Talk to Your Body (Yes, Really)
Ask: “What do you want me to know today?” Then listen. Journal if you want. Over time, the messages get clearer.

9. Create a Body-Safe Environment
Reduce harsh lighting, uncomfortable clothes, noisy interruptions. Make your surroundings supportive to your nervous system, not just your to-do list.

10. Slow Down Transitions
Instead of rushing from one thing to the next, pause in-between. Let your body catch up to your day. This rewires your default state from urgency to awareness.

….And we would be remiss if we didn’t say, stop beating yourself up! Halt the negative self-talk and self-criticism immediately and start telling your body how incredible it is. Talk to yourself like you would a nine month old baby. Be loving, give yourself grace, patience, and space.

The Miracle You Walk Around In

You don’t need to force a breakthrough. You just need to pause long enough to feel what’s already there. Your body has always been on your side. It’s not asking for perfection, it’s asking for partnership. And every time you listen, soften, or simply breathe with it… you build trust. You build safety. You build home.

Here’s to the quiet revolution of remembering what it feels like to be fully alive in your body, on your terms, and in your truth. At the end of the day, your body isn’t just something you have, it’s something awe-inspiring. It’s where your spirit lives. It’s where your intuition speaks. It’s where joy, grief, love, and aliveness all find form.

It breathes you. It heals you. It is you in the most breathtaking, intelligent, mysterious way.

We spend so much of our lives judging, ignoring, or bypassing the body…but maybe what it really needs is just to be seen. To be honored and marveled at. What a gift it is to live in this vessel. What a miracle to feel, move, breathe, and exist here fully.

So here’s to living in your body, not just in your head. To breathing deeper, feeling more, and honoring the miracle you walk around in every single day.

Because playing full out doesn’t just mean pushing harder. Sometimes, it means slowing down enough to hear the wisdom that’s already within you.

This is how we play full out.
Fully present. Fully alive. Fully embodied.

Let’s keep remembering.
Bart & Sunny

Life Updates:

• Our headsets have arrived for breathwork sessions! We have 36 headsets to facilitate group sessions with. The nice thing about using headsets is that it helps you to not be self-conscious about what you are doing, how you are breathing, etc.

• And in that regard, we are super excited that we will be able to use them during our upcoming event for our Legion 11:11 (Inner Circle) and We Play Full Out Life Mastery Event! We will be holding breathwork sessions every day, walking in nature, and going deep on life mastery. We can’t wait!

• Duke and Rolex (horses) are still doing absolutely amazing, as is our little dog, Dally! We are so thankful we have such amazing animals.

• Our I Do Epic Elite Execution Network has been posting daily gratitude - what a great way to start the day! We also have some really fun, new programs we are going to unveil inside there soooooon. Can’t wait for that, either!

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