You just closed the biggest deal of your career.

You hit the revenue goal that seemed impossible six months ago.

You finally got the recognition you’ve been fighting for.

You pick up the phone to share the news, scroll through your contacts…and slowly put it back down.

Who would even get it?

Your family would say, “That’s nice, dear.” Your old friends would hear a number that sounds like a brag. Your team sees you as the boss, not a peer. You’re surrounded by people, but you’ve never felt more alone.

Welcome to the loneliest room in the world: the top.

But it’s not really even just the top. It’s the grind. It’s the Tuesday afternoon when a client pulls out, payroll is due, and you’re staring at the ceiling wondering if you’re completely insane for choosing this path. It’s the quiet moments of doubt when the only voice you hear is your own (and we all know our minds can be our biggest enemies).

We’re sold a lie that success is a solo sport. That the crown is heavy. That it’s lonely at the top. We’re taught to nod along to these clichés as if they are inevitable laws of nature.

They are not. They are choices. And they are killing us.

Last year, the World Health Organization declared loneliness a pressing global health threat, with - get this - a mortality risk equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Let that sink in! The isolation “required” by your ambition has the same biological impact as a pack-a-day habit.

Why? Because your nervous system is a social organ.

We talk a lot about nervous system capacity - the ability to hold the stress, pressure, and expansion that comes with a bigger life. We’ve talked a great deal about what happens when stress becomes our daily baseline (so easy to fall into). But we’ve overlooked the most critical component of that system: co-regulation.

This is co-regulation in action. It’s your biology responding to the presence of others, finding safety in the collective, and outsourcing some of the burden (yes, we said burden) or self-regulation.

Now, imagine your entrepreneurial journey. Most of us are trying to sing a solo in a soundproof room, wondering why we feel so exhausted and out of tune. We are fighting our own biology, trying to hold the rhythm of our ambition all by ourselves.

When you’re in a room with people who get it, who are singing the same song of ambition and uncertainty, your nervous system actually calms down! Your heart find the rhythm of the group. You move from a state of chronic, low-grade fight-or-flight into a state of grounded, creative flow.

Don’t just take our word for it. Take Harvard’s.

The Harvard Study of Adult Development is one of the longest-running studies on human life in history. For over 85 years, it has tracked the lives of hundreds of individuals, from their youth to their old age. They’ve analyzed their health, their careers, their happiness, their failures, and their triumphs.

After nearly a century of data, the single clearest message from this study is this: Good relationships keep us happier, healthier, and help us live longer.

It wasn’t their wealth, their status, or their accolades that determined their well-being at the end of their lives. It was the quality of their relationships. As Esther Perel says, “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.”

Let that land! The single greatest predictor of your long-term health and happiness is not the size of your bank account or the success of your business. It is the depth and quality of your human connection.

The myth of the “self-made” entrepreneur is the most dangerous lie in the personal development space. It keeps us isolated, competing, and grinding ourselves down to the bone all while pretending we’re fine.

But the real magic of community isn’t just co-regulation. It’s borrowed belief.

There will be days when your own belief falters. When the evidence of your struggle is louder than the faith in your vision. On those days, you need a circle that can lend you their belief in you. You need people who can see your highest potential even when you’re buried in the fog of your own doubt.

This is what it means to have someone’s back. It’s the active, loving refusal to let someone play small. It’s a group of people who are so invested in your success that they will hold you accountable to the greatness they see in you.

But there is a shadow side to this truth. If the right circle is your greatest asset, the wrong circle is the most insidious form of self-harm.

Surrounding yourself with people who don’t want you to succeed - or worse, who are indifferent to your growth - is a slow-acting poison. The people who subtly question your ambition. The ones who roll their eyes at your new morning routine. The ones whose own limiting beliefs are so loud that they drown out your own potential.

Jim Rohn was right: You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Their habits become your habits. Their income level becomes your ceiling. Their anxiety becomes your baseline. Their resignation to a smaller life becomes your reality.

Choosing to stay in proximity to people who drain your energy, doubt your vision, and normalize mediocrity is not loyalty. It is a betrayal of your own future. It is an act of self-harm disguised as social obligation.

Curating your social circle is not ruthless. It is a non-negotiable requirement for your financial, mental, and physical health. You have to be more afraid of who you will become by staying than you are of the temporary discomfort of leaving.

This isn’t about finding more leads or contacts. This is about consciously designing your environment. It’s about finding your people. The ones who will sit with you in the terrifying uncertainty of a launch week. The ones who will call you on your bullshit when you’re playing small. The ones who will genuinely celebrate your win because they know the hell you walked through to get there.

Fighting the fight of life alone is not a sign of strength; it’s a sign of a nervous system stuck in a trauma response. It’s a belief that you are the only one you can rely on…a belief that will cap your growth, your joy, and your impact, guaranteed.

So the question isn’t if you need a community. The question is, what are you doing today to curate one?

It’s not another accountability group for your to-do list. It’s a daily nervous-system support group for badasses. It’s a belief-lending library for the days you feel bankrupt.

It’s a 10-minute Zoom call, every single weekday, with a curated group of high-achievers who are committed to playing full out. It’s a space to declare your intention, to be seen, and to start your day in a state of connection, not isolation.

It’s the antidote to the loneliest room in the world. You can check it out right here.